Couples: Doing Things Together Improves Your Relationship!
It’s been a while since me and my boyfriend did “couple things” together.
Lately, it’s been like we’re a mix of comfortable roommates and friends with benefits. I mean, we still do things together like going to the movies and going to the gym, but they’re not really couple activities. The movies always include our friends, and at the gym we workout separately, him at his weights and me at my cycling machine. Every now and then he’ll check up on me, but that’s the extent of it.
Afterwards, we go to a healthy fast food place, but the entire thing is pretty uneventful. I think the real problem is that we don’t make time for each other, but that’s just because we have such different interest. I love him to death, but I can’t get into video games. He usually plays first person shooters. Those games are too violent and everything moves too fast. Aside from that, I like being more active in my spare time. When I have extra time, I like to read at the park or go to the lounge with my friends; I hate staying indoors.
I tried bringing this up to him and nothing has really worked. Things did get better however, because we’ve found new things that we can do together instead of interest we already have. For instance, he likes photography and I love to drive, so every weekend we take long drives to the mountains and canyons to take photos of the beautiful scenery. It’s one of the many perks of living in the southwest! Anyway, he likes the time we spend together; it gives us the opportunity to talk and just be with each other without much distraction.
A friend of mine is having the same trouble with her boyfriend Paul. They share more interest than us, but the ideas they come up with are so uncreative. Rhonda, I hope you read this, because I want you to find what we found.
Here are some tips to work towards doing more couple activities!
1. Make time for each other: I know this is really obvious, but I feel like it needs to be said. It took forever for us to find a compatible schedule. Too many things happen during the week, which is why we have our couples day on the weekend.
2. Try New Things: This didn’t really work for me, but it could work for you. There are the cliche activities, like cooking classes; try being creative. What’s something both of you have always wanted to do? Create a list and pick one!
3. Try Something Simple: As stated, we just drive out to scenic places because of our shared interest and our location. Find something like a picnic, or window shopping that the two of you can enjoy. The both of you don’t have to do the same thing, but the activities should compliment each other, so one always enhances the other.
I hope these tips helps someone out there find what we have.